Jennifer Garner Online
Quotes

•(Jen about her daughter) Ben and I try very hard not to talk about Violet to the press. We don’t want to give the paparazzi any power. They really invade your kid’s space. I tell them, “Please don’t put your cameras in her face,” and they don’t care. My kid doesn’t belong in magazines. She’s two! People recognize her in a different state when she’s with someone who’s not me. They say, “Oh, that’s Violet Affleck.” That’s not okay with me.

•(On getting her ears pierced for the 2006 Oscars) A couple of months before the ceremony, I went to pick out the jewelry I’d be wearing on the night. I picked out the diamond cuff and the hair clip, and then they showed me the most gorgeous pair of earrings I’d ever seen. It wasn’t until I came to try them on that I realized they’d forgotten I didn’t have pierced ears. They could see how much I loved them, and how disappointed I was that I couldn’t wear them, so they said that, if I really wanted to, they could pierce my ears for me there and then. That would give them enough time to heal before the ceremony, and I could then wear the earrings. And I really did want to wear those earrings, so I said ‘OK’, and they pierced my ears for me before I left the boutique. It felt a bit odd to have them done, although I did have them pierced for a couple of weeks a few years back for a movie I was in, but it was worth it because I knew it meant I’d be wearing those fabulous earrings to the ceremony.

•I don’t know anyone who was never a geek, really, when they look at their own lives. I think that from the outside looking in, you think that you weren’t necessarily a tragic geek, but yes, you did lean in that direction.

• (About daughter Violet) It’s very important to us that she remains a kid. If she wants to do theater someday, okay, but as for doing it for a living, that’s not a kid’s job.

• (About Britney Spears) After watching her performance on the 2007 VMA’s, I wanted to just go and… I don’t know, mother her.

• (About losing her pregnancy weight) It took me a long, long time. I just wasn’t that motivated. I wanted to play with my baby. Then I got on the treadmill, stopped stuffing my face, and lost the weight. I cut out croissants, bagels and muffins–all the good stuff–and I went back to having a salad once a day, and protein.

• I call my mom now and say, “You know all the dinners you made that I said “no” to and then went off and ate peanut butter? I’m sorry. I get it now. I slaved over roasting this, and Violet goes, “No, no, no!”

• (Joking about her daughter’s relationship with her stunt body double) I have a problem with my child actually right now. She’s obsessed these days with my stunt double, Shauna Duggins. She’s a really good friend of mine. She’s like my partner in crime. She’s amazing; she’s like me except cooler, hotter and with a better body. My daughter recognizes this and makes me call her ‘Shauna Girl’ and she draws Green Shauna, Pink Shauna, Blue Shauna.

• You know how as a kid you picture yourself with a tall, handsome husband, and you imagine him cuddling your baby? Ben [Affleck] is like that, like, on crack.

• Violet is the most beautiful thing. Just that she exists and I get to hang out with her. I think that I can read her mind because I’m with her all the time. Then she’ll do something off the wall and surprising. There’s no one who is more fun.

• I do think about aging. I have those moments of panic and vanity, but life keeps getting better, so you can’t worry about it too much.

• (On her daughter Violet) She looks like both of us. She’s somewhere in-between the two of us. Ben and I like more things in ourselves that we now see reflected in Violet. To see my dimples in her makes me like my dimples, because I share them with her.

• I’m pretty chilled as a pregnant chick and I feel like I’ll be pretty chilled about the whole thing. I mean, I feel kind of warrior-like about it. But I do have the moments in the middle of the night where I’m like, ‘Wow, this has to come out!’

• There’s nothing more emotional than seeing your partner–the man you love–with your baby at any time: the first time, the second, yesterday, today. There’s nothing more beautiful.

• (On Ben Affleck as a dad) He does a good job. I mean, okay, maybe I wrote out what he was supposed to make for her (to eat) today while I was gone. But that’s just me being paranoid. He’s great – he can do it.

• (On losing the baby weight) It took me a long, long time. I just wasn’t that motivated. I wanted to play with her. Then I got on the treadmill, stopped stuffing my face and lost the weight. I cut out croissants, bagels and muffins – all the good stuff. And went back to having a salad once a day and protein.

• I was rocking [Violet], and she was fascinated by the light hitting the ceiling. I thought, “God, for the past five years, I haven’t stopped to look at light on the ceiling for [one] second.” To slow down and go at her pace has been such a gift.

• Having a baby fills your life in such a way that no matter what you’re doing, there’s something bigger. I’ve just been in heaven being with her the past year.

• Fashion taste is so much a thing of the moment that it’s almost impossible to always be on the cutting edge anyway, so I try to keep things simple and classic. I got some pretty good press for my Oscar dress, so I can’t complain.

• I only feel [pressure] when I go to film premieres and there’s so much fuss about wearing the perfect dress. That can be intimidating. I don’t have the greatest fashion sense myself, but I think I know what kind of dresses look good on me or not.

• (On all her lingerie scenes in “Alias”) I was in about half the lingerie that they wanted me to be in! Every now and then I’d get a script that would be like, ‘Sydney’s in a bikini,’ and I’d be like, ‘I can’t! You have to give me notice. I have to have months to get ready. Don’t make me do it.’

• (On her days since giving birth to her daughter Violet) Most of the time by far, I’m at home with my daughter. My husband is superinvolved and very present, so I don’t have that feeling of wandering around the house bumping into things. I have just enough stuff that gets me out where I feel like, “Oh look, I exist in the world.”

• I didn’t grow up in a politically active family like [Ben Affleck] did, and I’m jealous of him that way. I’ve always felt slightly behind. But it’s like baseball: The more you know about it, the more you like it. I’m finally learning the difference between Sunni and Shiite, you know what I mean? And thank goodness, I find that [Ben and I] are pretty much on the same page.

• (On her family) We hardly saw movies. It was a much bigger deal for us if Annie came through. We saw Flowers for Algernon when I was probably six, and Mom said that at the end, I stood up on my chair and was screaming and clapping.

• I never got recognized! I’d be with my husband [actor Scott Foley from “Felicity” 1998] and people would think I’m his manager, and they’d start giving me their business cards.

• Sometimes I look at [skinny actresses] and think, Oh God, I should look like that. I’m jealous because the clothes hang on them so well. But I would have to torture myself to look like they do.

• I’m well-known for action but it was never even a hint of a consideration when I was starting to work as an actress. To be honest, comedy wasn’t up there either. I was always kind of the vulnerable girl next door.

• Jenna in 13 Going on 30 is probably closer to my actual personality than Sydney [on Alias] in a lot of ways.

• (On her character Sydney losing two years of her life in “Alias”) We were all shocked. I’m almost embarrassed to tell you this but when we were shooting Sydney waking up in Hong Kong, I could not stop crying and it wasn’t supposed to be an emotional scene, JJ asked me why and I said, “Because I can’t stand it for her. It isn’t fair that she lost two years and the love of her life.”

• (On “Alias”) In the first season when I was nominated for the first time, and I was over the moon, it didn’t occur to me that it could happen. This makes me feel like its not about the buzz, its not about the new kid in town. This makes me feel like we have done 57 solid episodes and i’ve been there for every single day of every single one and it MATTERS.

• (On her favorite musical roles) Gosh, I love everything. I love being in the chorus. I was in the chorus of Little Abner in Summerstock once and it was so fun, the dancing and finding the harmony, being part of a big group. I loved–I played Gypsy when I was younger and I loved, loved, lu-hu-hoved Gypsy. I think that’s such a beautiful musical. I loved–I was Dream Laurey once in Oklahoma and that is such a beautiful ballet. I love Cabaret. I did that in college and I love them all.

• (On her best friend growing up) I grew up next door to this guy named Danny Moore. He is now married with a couple of kids. He still lives in Charleston and I still see him every time I go home. And Dan and I had this ritual, we called it porch talk where every night when we got home from our various things, and then through high school it would be from dates or whatever it was, he would throw rocks or pennies at my window if my light was on, or I would at his window. I would come downstairs or he would and we would sit on the front porch of either house and talk about, go through everything. And we were absolute sweetest best of friends and it was always innocent, but I think we probably both did have crushes on each other but we never- – he set me up with all of his friends instead and I talked him through his various relationships.

• (On kissing a girl for Elektra) You know, I’d have to say it’s the first time I’ve ever kissed a girl. I didn’t object it, I didn’t really think about it much either way. When the time came it was just a kiss. It was totally, completely fine. We’d just talk about our sisters or talk about, you know, “Oh wait you’ve got a hair stuck here” and I think it’s the only person on screen I’ve kissed where I’m making sure her lipstick is straight and then we’d actually kiss, they’d say “cut” and we would laugh and get on with it. It was nothing to speak of.

• (On her expierence with comic book fans) I’m lucky that the color of my costume is the toughest I’ve ever got. People don’t come up and go “You sucked as Elektra! You should have been Greek! I hate you!” They might say that behind my back, but my experiences have been really, really positive, which has only made me enjoy the world more.

• (On hiding the baby for “Alias”) We talked about trying to hide it and I just said that’s ridiculous. First of all, I think it’s a really honest, mature, real storyline for her and for me to get to play with her. Also, it would just be ridiculous right now, if not in a couple of months.

• My big sister Melissa is such a stud, and my little sister Suzanna has always had a perfect body and big blue eyes. We were a force.

• I lost weight breastfeeding! That and a moderate exercise and eating plan with the help of my personal trainer. I wasn’t about to jump on the celebrity mom bandwagon of getting super-skinny, super-quickly. I am more concerned about keeping healthy and spending time with Violet than anything else.

• I want a graduate degree, I want to be a business woman, an investment banker, a writer, a pianist. I really wish I could cook. I’ve never had specific goals in life. I don’t say, ‘I’d like my next step to be this’, and then write it down and go after it. Actually, I don’t write anything down. I just think things to myself and they actually start to happen. So watch out.

• (On her first husband Scott Foley) I wanted to see him as a white knight and was crushed whenever anything normal happened. I wanted to be the princess… Now, I’m much more willing to see myself as human and flawed, and accept someone.

• The first thing I check out on a guy is his hands. I imagine them picking up a baby; it’s a sensual thing. They should look capable and strong and have a bit of artist in them–like he’s picked up a guitar or could draw a sketch.

• (On struggling at first with her career) When I first got to New York I lived on a futon on this woman’s kitchen floor for nine months. I paid her $400 a month while I was understudying a play on Broadway that I got $150 a week for. I got the flu and bronchitis because I didn’t have a warm coat in the middle of winter.

• (On winning a Goldon Globe in 2001.) My husband was as flabbergasted as I was. I think he almost flew out of his skin. He was so surprised and excited. He is just the most supportive and proud friend. My family is just beyond out-of-control excited.